On New Year’s Eve this year, my brother had a dinner party and everyone went around the room and had to say what their attachment style was. I said I was anxious-avoidant, but less so than I used to be, so much less so, really everyone, I’m almost secure, and someone who had never heard of attachment styles looked up on their phone what all of them meant and apparently sometimes anxious-avoidant is referred to as disorganized and I’d never heard of that, but it makes sense because that’s how my entire body feels when I am stressed.